Satisfy others and end up loosing our true selves. Is it ok to be like that?
“Satisfaction” a word which pleases every single individual in their own way of living. Every where we see human beings are running from here to there to achieve what they want, but the question is: are they satisfied? In todays era of living every person need comfort in its livelihood but more than that they want to satisfy others so that they don’t feel sad for them.
For example, in exam a average tries to scores more then his own limits which he is not prepared for because he doesn’t to be a joke among his classmates and also don’t want to get scolded by his parents. Similarly, his parents want him to score more which he was not capable of to satisfy society and accepted among them. Now the question is why they want to do this? Why satisfy others by losing touch our true selves.
From a very young age, we leek to seek approval from our parents, relatives, society, friends, teachers etc. By which we are unable to find our true selves and just keep trying to satisfy them. Our dreams, our goal which we want to achieve suddenly started disappearing or changing. It is acceptable to seek approval from others as it is in human nature but it becomes problematic when approvals overrides our personal desires and ideas of living.
Can we say that social media is one of the biggest norms of this? The answer is Yes, it is. As we can se every one is socially actives nowadays and try to satisfy others or oneself. Every one wants attention and get to be noticed by others. On social platforms individuals are not judged by their nature or their way of talking but from likes and comments of their posts they share. From comparing constantly we loose our touch with the person who we really are.
Personal identity and self perception are influenced in one’s life that sometimes it can’t be cured. When we starts thinking what other say or prioritize others expectations or try to satisfy others over our own needs we starts to risk authenticity in our life. We try to achieve things which are of no use to us but to get approval from others we still do and lose our true self. Relentlessly thinking of others approval gives anxiety and depression. By which we are also unable to achieve manageable belongings.
By doing this we started to loosing our belief system what we stand. Our values are compromised, our ideas becomes useless, our thinking style changes, our vision changes so many other norms. Relationships got affected obviously as out belief system is compromised in the quest of satisfying other we starting losing what we have. When we are not true to ourselves, our interactions become inauthentic, leading to superficial connections that lack depth and meaning.
Fear of rejection is the biggest norms in this problem. Society, peers, relatives and all will not accept us. The question arises, is society helped when you are financially not good, does peers asked while going out with your other friends, or relatives asked when your parents are admitted in the hospital. So what we are afraid of, pleasing them such persons who only takes advantage of you when you are at your low or when they want some kind of help from you. The desire of getting approval from others makes you weak day by day and it will left a very harmful affect on one’s life.
“Satisfying others at the cost of losing ourselves can be a perilous path. It involves compromising our own values, desires, and well-being to meet others’ expectations, often leading to a loss of self-identity and inner peace. This self-sacrifice may create temporary harmony, but over time, it erodes our sense of self-worth and authenticity. True fulfillment comes from balancing our needs with those of others, fostering relationships where mutual respect and understanding thrive without sacrificing our own essence.”
So now the question is, How to rediscover out true identity our true self? It’s not that easy but also not impossible. Instead of satisfy others we can work to be more better. It requires constant efforts and self believe. There are various way one can achieve that such as:-
- A person should be self aware and self assessed.
- It is important to set boundaries among others.
- Your should know your own priority because it matters the most.
- Surround yourself to the people who appreciate your work instead of criticizing it.
- You should be vulnerable and authentic even if it means facing disapproval.
- Use social media but for mindful content that helps you to grow.
What we have concluded from this?
The conclusion is that the idea and the reasons behind all this is just to find your true self. The path of this journey may not be easy to cross but it shows the authenticity in you. When we learn to prioritize things which are important for us we starting embracing vulnerability or even more we started to getting to know our true selves. If we remain true to ourselves we are accepted by the society without any hesitation and we contribute more to an inclusive society where individuals are celebrated who you really are instead of who you expected to be.
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